I’ve mentioned before I believe boys and girls were created differently for a reason. In general, boys are meant to lead. Because of this they were created with a few…trying…character traits.
- Endless energy
Can I get an amen? Because of these character traits our boys can be hard to control. Many times parents and children end up locked in a battle of wills, one demanding respect, the other asserting their independence. Sadly, if this dynamic isn’t broken it will continue into the teen years, often with devastating results. So let us ask ourselves.
Do we really want to control our children?
I think not, not exactly. When I think of control I think of force, the breaking of spirits, the breakdown of natural God-given traits. As maddening as they can be at times, He gave those character traits to our children for a reason.
- Endless energy = Stamina
- Stubbornness = Loyalty and Commitment
- Bossiness = Leadership
- Curiosity = Knowledge
- Adventurousness = Trail Blazer
- Hot-headedness = Decision Maker
From that belief comes my philosophy of “Bend It, Don’t Break It”. We want to bend our children to the will of the Father, not break the unique spirit they were given. This is not a license for disrespect or disobedience. This is instilling in our children the ability to use their gifts in a positive way. The desire of my heart is to teach my children to channel their energy into efforts that are pleasing to Him. It’s not an easy task. But it is possible.
How do you encourage your children to obey while keeping their spiritual gifts intact?