Memory Boxes

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I watch as my little girl’s eyes well up with tears for no apparent reason.  “What’s wrong?” I ask sympathetically.

“I’m so sad about my paper princess doll,” she sobs.  “I miss her!  Why did you throw her away?  In those stinky fish?  I should have written my name on her!”

I heave an exasperated sigh.  Again?  I thought we were over this months ago.

Yes, I committed the ultimate crime of motherhood.  I threw away a half-finished mangled paper princess craft.  It had been neglected in our group camping picnic spot for hours.  I was cleaning up and had no idea which of the half-dozen girls it belonged to, or if they were even still at the camp.

It got covered by fish guts as others cleaned their catch of the day.  And THEN 4yo Esmé realized it was missing.  And sobbed most of the 1.5-hour drive home.

Every so often, the memory comes back to haunt her.

Even though she’s currently in love with her Caddie Woodlawn paper doll.

If your house is at all like mine, toys multiply while I sleep.  Toys that were nicely contained yesterday suddenly overflow their container today.

So, how do you purge, declutter, achieve sanity in a teeny house, when you have a kiddo who is sentimentally attached to every single toy in her arsenal?

I can’t tell you how to do that.  I’ve tried to sneak stuff out of the house, only to deal with drama months later when daughter suddenly notices the missing items.  We’ve talked about blessing others with our excess, and that sometimes works.  We’ve made new toys conditional on giving up old ones, but that doesn’t help with gifts from others.

Here’s one spring cleaning event we are making a tradition, though:

We’re creating a memory box together.

It’s something to celebrate each year of change and growth.

We pull out the box, discarding items that no longer have poignant memories.

Together, we decide which current toys she’s outgrown but want to keep for memory’s sake.

We spend quality time discussing memories that I have, that she has, where the toys came from, the relationships they represent.

Not just toys, the box includes baby blankets, favorite dresses, awards, chewed-up toddler books, lullaby CDs.

The box itself doesn’t have to be perfect.  My personal memory box is a cardboard citrus fruit box  – which has memories in itself.  As a kid, I remember gorging myself on the whole big box of Florida oranges we bought every winter.

It’s HER box.  Sometimes I want her to keep something that holds no significance to her, even after I share my memories.  I may choose to keep that for my own, or more often, take a digital photo and pass it on.

I’m still tempted to toss out toys behind her back when the clutter threatens to overtake us.  But thanks to my sentimental daughter, I’m learning toys are not just about excess, about materiality.  Toys are about childhood.

And childhood is too short to discard at a whim. 

Don’t just purge stuff this spring.  Celebrate growth.  Enjoy your child.  And treasure each moment, each memory, together.

Pruning Preschool

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Pruning – (verb) ….Webster definition is to reduce especially by eliminating superfluous matter ..Wikipedia definition…. reasons to prune  include, shaping (by controlling or directing growth), improving or maintaining health, reducing risk from falling branches, and increasing the yield or quality of flowers and fruit

 

As Spring as comes around it’s time to dust the cobwebs and refresh the house.  Have you ever thought how your children might need a little refreshing too? How about you?  Let’s take this pruning definition and consider how we might reshape, maintain and or prune away the superfluous matter in our schooling.

 

Maintain Spiritual & Educational Health :

Increase the yield with playtime with your children.  Playtime is essential to your child learning.

“Learning accumulates through experience. It occurs first at a social level then the indivudual.” Debra Bell discussing the Piagets Child Model.

How is the Quality of the fruit coming from your preschooler? Sweet or sour?

“The Heart of your child should always trump ABC’s every time! “ Rachael Carmen

 Shaping and Re-shaping: Make sure you are spending time in the Bible with your preschooler.  It can be a short story. Rebecca Jones from Leading little heart home suggests “Think of the Library Lady” , “A short story, snack and a craft.”

Don’t fill your day so full of paper school that you have no time for anything else?  Prune away all the extras. Take time outside to enjoy pretty flowers and notice how each flower is unique.  Let your little Tot know how unique God has created them to be.

Prune those toys that just sit around. Prune the curriculum you bought and never use and bless another family.  Reshape what you do with your preschooler. Fill part of your day with learning about God’s creations with a Nature Journal. Explore all the wonderful creatures outside.

Refresh your day. Focus on only a couple of things for each season. Don’t feel like you have to print out every wonderful craft and lapbook idea. Focus on a couple of themes a season.

Spring Themes                                Summer Themes

Farm Animals                                      Oceans & Sea life

Plants & Flowers                                 Beach &  Sand

Ponds & Frogs                                      Boats

Butterflies & Kites                                Summer Treats like Ice Cream


Autumn Themes                             Winter Themes

Pumpkins                                              Snowflakes

Apples                                                    Arctic Animals

Owls                                                       Ice

Trees & Leaves                                    Stars & Moon

Keep it Simple. I know there are some wonderful ideas on how to organize school. It can be overwhelming when those wonderful ideas just don’t seem to work for your season of life right now. That is OK! I have learned from seasoned Homeschool Moms that it is OK to put it away until your children are older.
At a recent conference I attended Rachael Carmen (Homeschooling mother of 6)  came up with an idea that may work for you if you are teaching multi-levels as I am .  Rachael called them Preschool Boxes.  The idea is to have each box contain certain themes or toys, stickers, and books they can only have during preschool time. You can create one for each day.  Circle Time is also beneficial time where you can do group activities as a family, such as Bible time, Song time, Reading.

 Pruning is beneficial and is definitely necessary to create a proper growing tree or bush. Pruning can definitely  benefit our homeschool as well. Whatever you decide to prune may it benefit your preschooler to shape your family to produce good fruit for Christ.

“I am the vine, ye are the branches: He that abideth in me, and I in him, the same bringeth forth much fruit: for without me ye can do nothing.” John 15:5

Fall Leaf Book – all ages

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Fall is in full swing here and there are tons of projects you can get in to.  Here is one that is easy peasy. Very little prep work needed.  Just take a stroll and enjoy this time of year.

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What you need: 

Colorful Fall Leaves

Crayons

4 pieces of Construction paper or white paper

Twine, String,or Ribbon

Glue

A hole puncher

This was a project my kids did with Grandma. They went for a little Nature Walk and collected leaves. All sizes, shapes and colors.

Instructions for book:

In the center of each piece of paper, punch 2  holes about 4 inches apart.

Stack paper and thread piece of twine threw the holes and tie.

Have each child take the leaves and glue them into the pages and Viola! Your vary own Leaf book.

For Older Children:

To add a homeschool touch. (grins)

You can also classify each leaf with a nature field guide.

I also had the girls try to match the crayon colors with the leaf colors as well.  Copper, Forest green, etc..  If you want the leaf pages to last you can dare I say it.. Contact paper them in. (cough, cough) or just have fun making new ones the next year.

Happy Fall!

Kelly is a mom of 4 girls blogging day by day in His Grace at Believing.

How to Occupy Babies & Toddlers During School Time

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How to Occupy Babies & Toddler During School time

I have tried close to everything to occupy my babies.  School times definitely have to be flexible when you have little ones. Can I get an Amen? I hope you benefit from our stressful days and implement some of the ideas listed below.   These ideas are for babies older than 6 months. Before that hopefully they are still sleeping a good deal. (grins)

High Chair Time

Cheerios, Kix and a sippy cup of water.

Teether Toys , Big Spoons and a cup

Ok Take a breath for this one. Ready? Water in a low lip bowl. Tupperware works well. Yes, it’s messy BUT it’s just water. It will dry. Repeat again “It Will Dry!”

Different Textures to touch. Such as silky fabric, sand paper, crunchy toys. Obviously for older babies. I would suggest not leaving the baby with textured toys alone due to choking.

If they are newbornish you can lean them back in the high chair and the sleep right there, or even in a swing if the bed is to far away for you.

Booster Seats work well too.  Sitting baby  and or Toddler right at the table during school time works well for us.

Blanket Time

Teach your baby or Toddler to sit on a blanket with a couple of toys that she only gets to play with on the blanket.

You might ask.. How do I teach my baby to sit still on a blanket?

PRACTICE, Practice, Practice.

Spend time on the blanket with your baby. Praise your baby for sitting on the blanket.

When baby wanders off blanket bring the baby back to the blanket and say “stay on the blanket.”  Yes ,this method is time consuming, but just think 15 minutes.  She will learn to stay on the blanket and you will have successful school times.

Baby Slings

Slings are great!  I currently have a Moby Wrap. I just strap her in there and she is happy to be with Momma!

Crib Time

It’s OK to put the baby or Toddler in the crib for 15-20 minute with some toys that are not chocking hazards.  Last but not least NAP TIMES! Never underestimate nap times. Even if it’s only 30 minutes. Don’t give up nap times. They are beautiful thing.  These ideas are just the tip  of the iceberg. Be creative and flexible. Remember you can do it. Feel free to leave comments leaving your ideas.

Kelly is a mom of 4 girls. Homeschooling day by day in God’s grace. You can visit them over at Believing 

10 Great Reads for Toddlers

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Every toddler loves a good book. Truth be told, so do most adults.  One thing I have learned by spending time reading to my toddler,  is that it’s not necessarily bad to read books that a toddler may not understand (just as long as it has great pic’s :-) ). With each new book you read to  your toddler, it builds into their growing vocabulary.

Below are some recommended reads for you and your toddler:

  • Goodnight Moon- by Margaret Wise Brown True Classic. My girls love looking for the little mouse on each page.
  • Go Dog Go-  by P.D. Eastman This is a great book of repetition.  Reading this over and over again you and your tot will pick up little sayings.. like “Do you like my hat?”
  • Milly Molly Mandy- by Joyce Lankester Brisley These are short stories about a little girl living with her family and various chores and playtimes little Milly Molly Mandy ends up doing.
  • The Berenstain Bears Big Book of Science and Nature- by Jan & Stan Berenstain  This really is a big book. One of our favorites. You take a walk through the year with the bears in the woods and explore Science.
  • The Tale of Peter Rabbit- by Beatrix Potter The classic tale of Petter Rabbit. Boy does he get into trouble. ;-)
  • James Herriot’s Treasury for Children- by James Herriot These stories are a little lengthy but enjoyable as you follow a veterinarian on trips to take care of animals and other adventures of various animals around town.
  • Thy Friend Obadiah-  by Brinton Turkle A tale of a little Quaker boy who ends up with a unwanted seagull as a friend.  When the seagull is in trouble Obadiah finds out what true friendship is.
  • Year at Maple Hill Farm- by Alice Provensen This book is all about life on the farm. Each season and month you can find out what is happening on the the Farm.
  • Knuffle Bunny- by Mo Williams This story we check out at the library. It is a wonderful tale of a rabbit and laundry.
  • Little Gem books by Rod and Staff- These are great little character building stories for your toddler with basic pictures of home life.

Whatever you end up reading enjoy spending at least 15 minutes snuggling and reading with your toddler.  I know I could have listed more great books but wanted to leave that up to you. Feel free to share some of your favorite reads with your toddler.

As a matter of fact I am going to read to them right now. Have a Happy Reading Day.

Kelly is a mom of 4 girls. Homeschooling day by day in God’s grace. 

Outdoor School for Toddlers

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“…the mother must not miss this opportunity of being outdoors to train the children to have seeing eyes, hearing ears and seeds of truth deposited into their minds to grow and blossom on their own in the secret chambers of their imaginations.” Charlotte Mason, Volume 1, page 45

Getting outside is so important for children.  Exploring Nature is to be appericated at all ages.  New research has been suggesting a Nature deficit disorder in children. Research is also showing that getting children outdoors is helping ease attention disorders.  I know I am not an outside person at heart. I have had to force myself with my children outside. I have really enjoyed it to my surprise. So if you are like me start slow.  Good Grief this sounds like therapy doesn’t it?

Here are some ideas to get you started:

Don’t be afraid to get dirty. I remind myself of this every time my kids go outside.

Print out some coloring pages of flowers, birds, butterflies.  Make a Nature Journal.  Glue or tape in leaves or flowers you have found. Note the weather and where you were each time you collect something.

Pick up a Field Guide from used book store, or online.

Take a little stroll around the yard or local park.

Check out the birds and listen for them. Here is guide to help you identify the calls.

Collecting and sorting, sticks, leaves, acorns.

Note the difference in leaves. Leaf rubbings are fun with all sorts of different crayons. Collect acorns and sort the different ones. Make Acorn Soup! :-) Take the caps off and make a craft.

Visit a local Nature Center provided by your parks and recreation. (They have FREE programs or low cost)

Have a Scavenger Hunt (Find a stick, acorn, pine needle, ant, butterfly)

What’s that you say? You live in the CITY. Well if you live in the city and have  nothing but buildings and streets your out of luck. JUST KIDDING!  If you must,  bring the outdoors inside.  Get some dirt and seed packets and plant those seeds! Have your toddler help water and tend to the flowers.  Make a journal every week of your flower growing. Talk about the sprouts coming up. Make a garden activity pack. Include coloring pages of flowers, parts of flowers, different tools used in a garden.  Whatever you decide to do enjoy spending time with your toddler.

What is your favorite outdoor activity with your Toddler?

Kelly is a mom of 4 girls. Homeschooling day by day in God’s grace. You can visit them over at Believe.

Preschool 201: Round 2

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We’ve wrapped up a year of preschool at our house (majoring in algebra and anatomy), so we’re kind of experts.  At least we’re at the stage where we’re thinking about what worked and what we want to do differently for our next official year of preschool.

So we thought we’d share our lessons learned.  Freshman preschoolers, these are for you.  Sophomoric Experienced preschoolers, we’d love to hear your own lessons learned!

Create and post a detailed routine at preschooler height.  Use clipart so your preschooler can follow along and keep you in line.  “I CAN’T do my reading lesson now.  See, this schedule shows I have to play outside first!”  Yeah…

White-out the print button on your computer monitor.  Metaphorically, of course.  There are millions of awesome free preschool printables online on every topic under the sun.  I’ve printed enough to last us through third grade, assuming we are still reviewing shapes and colors and farm animals then.  My ink cartridge rebates cover our grocery bills some weeks.  So now I’m wise and simply save all the stuff, printing it on the day I need it.

Teach your preschooler to recite on demand the answer to 12 times 12.  This will give you a public boost whenever you’re feeling a little unsure of your teaching ability or homeschooling decision.  We’re working backwards on the 12 times tables at the moment.  Overachievers can throw in a few Latin words as well.  Or exotic country capitals.

Don’t overplan.  And don’t overspend.  At this age, your little student will change and grow so rapidly that his learning needs change overnight.  Keep plans simple and flexible.  Some of the best experiences we’ve had are impromptu tea parties, bear studies in an under-the-table den, outdoor frog hunts, and science experiments gone awry.

Do surround your preschooler with learning opportunities.  A nature table, lots of writing tools, books and more books, learning games, adventures and excursions - whatever she finds engaging.

Put it to music.  We’ve effortlessly learned continents, days and months, Bible verses, and a whole lot of other things with music.

Treasure these days.  I’m pretty sure these are my favorite years of childhood, and they are whipping by ever too fast.  Every day shows evidence of more learning than I ever thought possible, though not always through the lessons I had planned.  Don’t rush the growing up.  “When they tell you to grow up, they mean stop growing.” (Tom Robbins)

Do you have any tips to share with those planning their preschool year?

Jane and 4yo Esmé write about their daily adventures at Mozi Esmé.

Fun Preschool Links

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This week The Homeschool Village decided to share some fun preschool links from our blogging friends!

Delightful Learning - Mirette on the High Wire (Five in a Row) be sure to check out the circus fun in the backyard!

1+1+1=1 - Tot School Letter K -  print out your Kk printables!

Meet the DubiensHandprint Ballerina Tutu - a-dor-able !

ABC & 123Farm Themed Learning Activities –  everything you need for on the farm fun !

Itsy Bitsy LearnersUnder the Sea Preschool Pack – get close to these cute sea animals!

Mama JennRainbow Pancakes – enjoy breakfast in style!

Our Country RoadAdding Postage Game – Free Math Printables!

Possibilities and Peas5 Reasons to Love the Library – there is much to do with your little one too!

Rockabye Butterfly - Feelings Count Lapbook - share the importance of feelings!

Homeschool Creations - Do-A-Dots Alphabet - print out these cute alphabet sheets and practice fine motor skills by coloring in dots!

What is your favorite preschool site?  We’re always on the hunt for a fun project to share!

Preschool: Celebrations

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We haven’t been hitting the books very hard lately.

What we have been doing is talking about graduations.

I know – it’s a bit early to start this conversation.  (Then again, much to my South African husband’s annoyance, we are all about graduation celebrations here in the US – from preschool, kindergarten, and all the way on up.)  But I do enjoy the celebration of milestones.

I’ve been thinking how the things we celebrate are the ones that shape our children’s lives:  as little ones, they start looking forward to their own graduations; their own weddings.  Not everything clicks for every kid, but that one dance recital, that one valedictorian speech, that one championship game, that one baptism, makes them think – I want to do that – be that – someday!

And so I’ve also been thinking about being more intentional in celebrations with my preschooler.   I’ve got no intention to dictate her personal goals, career choices, and aspirations, but the environment we create will set the bar, plant the seeds, light the path for her future.

  • Explain the celebration. If attending a graduation or recital, discuss the steps it took to get there.
  • Celebrate the everyday. I’ve spent so much of my life anticipating the next thing – living for the future.  It’s time to celebrate the first tulip in spring, the freshly-mown lawn, perfectly-ripe watermelon, the new shoe size.   I want my child to find joy in the moment.
  • Celebrate excellence. Don’t mistake the everyday for the mediocre – excellence in the everyday is what’s worth celebrating.   Set the bar realistically high as you celebrate the well-set table, the first book, the flawless recitation, the grasping of a new math concept, the meeting of a deadline.
  • Focus on the people. As kids, the focus of celebration is the presents.  As we get older, it shifts to the food – at least in our family.  Somehow, I’d like to shift the focus to the person, the achievement, and the people who contributed to the achievement.
  • Be generous. Demonstrate giving to those being celebrated.  Don’t be stingy – and I’m not (necessarily) talking about money, but about time, attention to detail, and a host of other – more valuable – resources.
  • Celebrate a variety of things. Attend a range of sports events, recitals, and parties in your friendship circle.  You never know what activity will spark your child’s interest.
  • Mix traditional and new. It’s nice to have solid, meaningful traditions included in our celebrations that can be passed on to future generations.  Appreciate our heritage.   At the same time, many of my favorite memories were the exceptions that stood out from the traditions.  Don’t be afraid of trying new things.
  • Support passion. Especially when they are little, it’s easy to brush off the excitement of twirly ballet dances and colorful picture essays.  When you see a passion develop, pay attention – and celebrate!
  • Give God the glory. Acknowledge the Giver of all good gifts.
When she’s not battling too-sticky play dough, Jane tries to instill in her four-year-old daughter a heart to change the world for Jesus. Her family has circled the globe and landed in rural Oregon where the grass is green and the sky is blue, though not usually at the same time. Their eclectic homeschool adventures are chronicled at Mozi Esmé.

Preschool Boys: Leadership Skills

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When a Canadian couple caused a stir by refusing to share their child’s gender in order to take a stand against gender stereotypes, it got me thinking. While my brain understood this stance, my soul cried out “Why can’t we celebrate gender differences?”
I am of the opinion that God has created our boys and girls to be vastly different in all ways, physically, emotionally, chemically – you name it – for a purpose. And His purpose will not be dimmed through choosing an asexual name, dressing your infant in pink or blue or signing your toddler up for ballet or football.
There have been many books written on the innate, natural differences between the genders for adults (i.e. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus) as well as teens (i.e. Guys Are Waffles, Girls Are Spaghetti). Because these differences are inherent I feel it’s important to teach our boys (and girls!) the skills necessary to fulfill their roles. And the ultimate relationship guide states:
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is Savior. Ephesians 5:23
Our boys are meant to grow up to be leaders of their families. So what better way to celebrate their gender than to give them the qualities necessary to be good leaders? Preschool is not too early to start. 

Honesty:The best way to teach honesty at this age is to set a good example as parents. Too much joking or exaggerating can inadvertently blur the line between honesty and lying. If you would like a more tangible way to teach ‘true’ and ‘not true’ consider playing The Demonstration Game (we call it Not True!)
Decision-Making:Boys need to be confident in their decision-making capabilities. An easy way to instill this is to give them fun, low-pressure ways to lead through decision making. The next time you are in a corn maze, a botanical garden or just taking a walk, every time you come to a cross path ask you son “Which way should we go now?” Then follow his lead with excitement.
Communication: In general, boys are not as good verbal communicators as girls. So if they’re going to learn to communicate well, we need to make the effort to teach them how. A fun way to accomplish this is to have them narrate back a short story you read them. Or you could play Hot or Cold – prompting your child to give more and more detailed directional hints.
Empathy and Kindness: This is another virtue that is so important to model. Be kind to your kids and let them see you serving others. They are not too young to take away lessons from visits to nursing homes or animal shelters. And be sure to read lots of great books about kindness, like my personal favorite The Giving Tree.
Planning and Critical Thinking: Sequencing games are great for teaching little ones critical thinking skills! But you don’t have to have an official game time. Play “What Comes First” when doing daily activities. Ask your son “What comes first, socks or shoes?” – toothpaste or toothbrush, milk or chocolate syrup – you get the idea.

How do you teach your son to lead well?

Cheryl loves the Lord and prays He will be glorified in her imperfection. She currently homeschools four boys (three teens and a toddler). She’s drowning in testosterone but enjoying the journey. You can find Cheryl at her blog Somewhat Crunchy.